Leaders sometimes get entangled when their personal lives contradicts the leadership role. Trying to be two people to different people.
What should happen when a leader’s action contradicts the values they are supposed to defend? Does it not give sanction to similar action to the people that look up to the leaders?
When we say one thing and do the other we are in what psychologists call dissonance. The Bible even says no man can serve two masters. You will either love the one or hate the other. The same is true about our thoughts and beliefs. You cannot hold two opposing beliefs. You cannot believe in abstinence and believe in having multiple partners at the same time.